Rescuer vs rescued?

Human nature and the love we feel for those closest to us puts us in the position of taking on their burdens.  Whether it is a friend who is ill, a child who is injured or a spouse who loses his/her job, we choose to take the burden upon ourselves.  Additionally, when one parent dies and leaves the other alone, a friend gets divorced or suffers a serious heartache or a relative loses their home, we feel obligated to share the loss with them.  When we take the burden of someone we love and place it upon our shoulders, we do not allow that person to get the full scope of their lesson and teachings from that experience.  Because we do not know our loved one's life lessons and karma, we are interfering with the agendathey set out for themselves. There is a fine line between expressing our sympathy, showing compassion, expressing concern and taking on the burden of our loved one's load.  Our struggle lies in our inability to detach from the situation from a place of love.  Additionally we need to trust that Spirit is providing the best scenario for our loved one's agenda in this incarnation.  Our decision to be too attached to our loved one's burden sends a two-fold message.  First, we don't believe that our loved one can carry the burden without our assistance.  Secondly, we place our ego before the teachings or our loved one.  By taking care of our loved one's burden's, the ego says, "You can't do this because you are too small, weak or fragile to do it yourself.  You need my help."   The ego feels good when it goes into rescue mode.  The rescuer can feel good about what they are doing for their loved ones.  They think to themselves, "I'm sharing their load, so they don't feel so overwhelmed."  In rescue mode, there is a disconnection with Spirit.  There is a lack of trust that this situation happened for a a reason and that all is divine in the eyes of God. Additionally, where is our faith in our loved one that they have all the skills, tools and love to go through this burden by themselves?

The teachings of the rescuer and the rescued can be applied in many areas of our lives.  If you find yourself going into rescue mode, ask yourself why you are so willing to take the spotlight off yourself and shine it on someone else?  If you find yourself looking to be rescued, ask yourself why you're looking to have someone else's spotlight instead of focusing on your own.  We choose to ignore our own path, karma and lessons by getting too involved in the burdens of others.  Similarly when we don't take on our full burden and expect others to carry our load, we set ourselves up for having to re-learn certain lessons over and over again.

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